I find it a disturbing trend happening where people are saying they are sorry to try to make amends for heinous acts and sway public opinion.
First example is Michael Vick’s apology note left at the podium of his press conference, stating over and over to apologize and say “I’m Sorry”. No one bothered to ask Vick what he was sorry for. I want to know Sorry for what? Sorry for the dogs he killed? Sorry for the embarrassment he has heaped on his teammates and family? Sorry for being a sad excuse for a human being?
Second example is the young man arrested in the shooting of two Delaware State University students and he says, “I’m sorry” to the reporters. One reporter asks the young man for what is he sorry for and the young man mumbles something about one of the victims being in the hospital. Being in the hospital! Not that he put the victim in the hospital. Not that he shot the victim, but that the victim is in the hospital. What kind of crap is that! Sorry does not cover the trauma, the heartache, the hurt nor the angst caused. Sorry does not cover the hospital bills, or the future psychiatric bills in dealing with the fact that this young man felt justified in dealing with his disassociated behavior by shooting people. After all in computer games and video games all you have to do is hit the reset and they all get up again, good as new. No blood, no trauma, no hard feelings.
The Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines the work ‘SORRY’ as the following: feeling sorrow, regret, or penitence. I think that the word sorry is over used and not used in the correct context. Very rarely is the word used with a penitent heart and a desire to change the wrong that has been wrought.
If a person is truly sorry, they will find a way to fix what they have broken. Owning up to their actions and accepting the consequences. Sorry does not erase terrible acts of violence, of hatred, or jealousy. Saying you are sorry doesn’t even start to make anything better.
What makes things better is not acting in an egregious manner in the first place. Not acting violently, resolving your disagreements peacefully and thoughtfully. Seeking to replace feelings of hatred with those of love, because we are all God’s children therefore we are all equal in the eyes of the One God. Understanding that loving truly leaves no room for jealousy, jealousy is the sign of a closed heart that is withering and rotting from inside.
If you are going to say you are sorry, you had better mean it. There is nothing worse than saying something you don’t mean. Saying you’re sorry to sway public opinion is prostitution of the worse degree.